Are You Guilty and Ashamed?

"You are a sinner. You should be ashamed of yourself. You should be guilty about your behavior.

You aren't good enough. You are a loser. You didn't do this well enough. You aren't doing anything. You are incapable.

You can never get anything right. Why do you even try?"

Ever had a voice in your head tell you these things?

People come to me. They come to our Happionaire programs, and share this with us. They tell us that they feel this way deep inside.

And there is a reason for it. Firstly, let me tell you - it isn't your fault if you have ever felt this way. Many people feel this way and it's because they have been programmed this way.

It's because of all the programming that happens on the outside ever since you are a child.

Imagine a small child.

What do parents, teachers and society tell this child? Most kids are not given the freedom to do things on their own.

They aren't given a chance to think for themselves. To experiment, to learn and to make their own mistakes.

Instead, they are made to look at life as one big burden. They are made to do things out of force and not real joy.

For instance, I never learnt the alphabet in order till I was in the 8th grade. I didn't know if "O" comes first or "M". It didn't really matter to me.

Have you ever thought how does it matter, which comes first? "O" or "M"? Not knowing that didn't stop me from writing or becoming a bestselling author.

Kids are made to feel guilty and ashamed, if they don't know something. This instills a sense of constant fear and timidity.

They are afraid of anyone in authority. Teachers, parents and elder and thus became easy to control.

Soon their inner instinct an desire, to learn, experiment and grow dies. They simply become robots following orders. They don't speak up. They don't express what is in their heart. And they lead a life where they have suppressed their inner thoughts, feelings, emotions and joy.

Your guilt and shame, has nothing to do with you, and everything to do with your programming.

But the good news is you can be reprogrammed. The way a computer or mobile can be reformatted and reprogrammed, the same can be done with the human mind.

The first thing that needs to be done is erase the earlier programming. Accept that the earlier programming isn't making you happy, it isn't make you free, it is making you miserable.

You earlier programming is making you feel constantly stressed, anxious and depressed. It isn't making you feel good enough. It is making you feel empty.

First you need to accept this. Many people aren't yet ready to accept this and that is why will never be able to change.

Imagine your computer is infected with a virus, but you believe it isn't. You won't do anything to get rid of the virus. You will never think of changing the infected software.

Once you accept that your earlier programming is defective, which in itself is very hard to do, you need to move to the next step.

Which is to install a new program. Now many of you might be asking me how do we install this new program?

Installing a new program takes time. It is a step by step process.

The first step is to accept you have infinite potential. You need to believe you are a seed that has the power to become a beautiful tree.

Pick up any seed. Every seed has the design within itself to become a tree. But it needs to be given fertile soil, sunlight, water, care and love. And every seed and tree is unique.

You too have potential, and what your potential is, might be very different from mine.

A mango tree, can't do the same role as an orange tree. But they are both special in their own way.

When you understand this, everything will change for you. This is true spirituality.

True spirituality frees you. It transcends politics and power. It helps you live your daily life with joy. With vitality, with a sense of purpose and energy that comes from deep within.

Your energy will become infectious, everything you do will be backed by something deeper within.

You will realize you are not a sinner. You are divine. You need to be grateful for having been given this beautiful life.

You are a winner. You are after all the winning sperm. Right from conception, you are a winner. You were competing against millions and billions of others, but you manged to fertilize the egg.

You experienced the entire evolutionary process in 9 months, and took birth. Look at how a human baby is inside the mother's womb over time. You can observe the entire evolutionary process. You learnt to do so many things. You overcame so many challenges. And you have so much more to do ahead of you.

The world needs you, but above all you need yourself.

You need yourself to rise higher and truly do what you are meant to. And I know deep down, you have the potential to tap into that. Listen and you will discover it.

And remember, the next time you feel fear, shame and guilt, you have a friend in me and simply remember what I told you.

Best of luck and stay happy!

Yogesh Chabria